Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
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- Create Date：2023-02-27 00:21:33
- Update Date：2025-09-06
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- Author：Lindsay C. Gibson
- ISBN：1626251703
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Reviews
Randi McArthur
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Validating。
Emily Evans
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Phew this was very validating in so many ways。 Made me feel seen。 Felt repetitive at times but the advice was something I’ll definitely implement in all relationships。 Definitely recommend for anyone wondering why they don’t have the relationship with their parents they always wanted and have seen others have。
Tori S
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Other reviews really hit the mark but the one thing I didn't see mentioned is how that the author doesn't really provide insight for those that are on the spectrum of inner focused vs externally focused。 There were some insightful things， but I wouldn't say this is a must read for anyone looking to understand themselves and family/generational trauma。 Other reviews really hit the mark but the one thing I didn't see mentioned is how that the author doesn't really provide insight for those that are on the spectrum of inner focused vs externally focused。 There were some insightful things， but I wouldn't say this is a must read for anyone looking to understand themselves and family/generational trauma。 。。。more
Kerissa
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Oof。 Mostly finished but honestly hard for me to listen to since I was looking into my life。
Damiana Norman
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I have never felt so seen by a book。
Lyndsay Sorrick
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I think 80% of this book is really good。 All the chapters about how your parents are messed up and how it affected you are really great。 I had a hard time getting through the chapters about how to fix yourself- but maybe that's where I am right now in my journey of healing。 But also， I hate when books have me to do activities。 I think 80% of this book is really good。 All the chapters about how your parents are messed up and how it affected you are really great。 I had a hard time getting through the chapters about how to fix yourself- but maybe that's where I am right now in my journey of healing。 But also， I hate when books have me to do activities。 。。。more
Amanda Garrett
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Don’t own but would like to own。
Leathia
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Insightful， but I think I would've actually gotten something from it if I read it pre-therapy years vs now。 It just validated that my choices have been right but didn't do much more。 Kind of redundant。 Insightful， but I think I would've actually gotten something from it if I read it pre-therapy years vs now。 It just validated that my choices have been right but didn't do much more。 Kind of redundant。 。。。more
Katie Kaz
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This should be required reading for every adult with Boomer generation parents。 It's not pointing a finger and blaming。 It's recognizing behavior and giving tools to manage expectations and relationships with parents that maybe didn't know how to meet emotional needs。 And even though the book doesn't directly speak to recognizing behavior in yourself as a parent， it definitely triggered that thought process for me and made me evaluate a lot of my interactions with my kids。 I'm not huge into self This should be required reading for every adult with Boomer generation parents。 It's not pointing a finger and blaming。 It's recognizing behavior and giving tools to manage expectations and relationships with parents that maybe didn't know how to meet emotional needs。 And even though the book doesn't directly speak to recognizing behavior in yourself as a parent， it definitely triggered that thought process for me and made me evaluate a lot of my interactions with my kids。 I'm not huge into self help books。 But this book hit the mark in some huge ways。 。。。more
Abby
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This book opened doors for me I never even knew existed。 Warning for others: This book resurfaced A LOT of traumas I was not previously aware of or did not think it had that big of an impact on me。 Please prepare yourself emotionally before embarking on this journey。 I wish EVERYONE would read this book。
Hillary Rousselot
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I didn’t find this book as life changing as other readers have， but it was good。 I wish that it talked more about recognizing these behaviors in yourself and how to work to change it but I think she discusses those processes in the sequel。
Harinee Ravishankar
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This was a life-altering book for me。 I found the examples used to explain concepts to be specific and incredibly validating。 This book left me better equipped with more knowledge and language to articulate my lived experiences。 The maturity awareness approach and the difference between internalization/externalization were well-explained。
Em Z Chu
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This book filled a hole in me。I felt calmed， understood， relieved， and wanted to cry at the same time。 There is a lot for me to take in and see for the first time。
Lindsay Messegee
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Wow， this was so straight forward yet compassionate， validating， and helpful book I've ever read。 I love the self analysis pages！ It can be a bit painful to read but I'd rather feel growing pain than anything else Wow， this was so straight forward yet compassionate， validating， and helpful book I've ever read。 I love the self analysis pages！ It can be a bit painful to read but I'd rather feel growing pain than anything else 。。。more
Evan
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Lindsay struck a chord。
Liz Srygley
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This book was something I really needed to read。 I won't lie it took me a while to read because of the impact of the information given。 This book was something I really needed to read。 I won't lie it took me a while to read because of the impact of the information given。 。。。more
Marnie Basney
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Absolutely loved this book。 It was written for me， I cannot thank this author enough！ For opening my eyes to what was not “normal” about my childhood， what I developed as coping skills， recognizing them， and realizing what I can do to change my reactions to life and manage my behavioral responses much better！ I got this publication from my library， but I will be buying this book。
Jenny
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YEEEESSSSSSSS。 I have never felt so SEEN by a self-help book before， but this book gets。 it。 Honestly， I wasn't necessarily reading it with my parents in mind - this book made me rather grateful for having an emotionally nurturing childhood。 But this book can also help with friendships， relationships， self-defeating patterns， and everything in between。 Required reading， the end。 YEEEESSSSSSSS。 I have never felt so SEEN by a self-help book before， but this book gets。 it。 Honestly， I wasn't necessarily reading it with my parents in mind - this book made me rather grateful for having an emotionally nurturing childhood。 But this book can also help with friendships， relationships， self-defeating patterns， and everything in between。 Required reading， the end。 。。。more
Duchess Brown
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DNF @ 51%I， this book is fine I just feel like I am too far along in my mental health journey for this to be useful。 I don’t feel like I am getting anything new
Olivia L。
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thank God （and Lindsay C。 Gibson） for this book
Morgan
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This is such a good book！！ It really made me realize a lot about my self and my loved ones。 I listened to this on audio and was so enthralled but I would definitely pick up a physical copy to annotate and reference back to。
Emma
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Yay more therapy homework！
Ha Vu
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It's a lot to unpack。 A lot！Sending all of you who grew up in a dysfunctional household a warm big hug。 We've got this。 Let's heal ourselves。 It's a lot to unpack。 A lot！Sending all of you who grew up in a dysfunctional household a warm big hug。 We've got this。 Let's heal ourselves。 。。。more
Tim Short
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Quite insightful and really painted the full picture of living with emotionally immature parents。 The book included stories of particular patients as well which added real world perspective。 I also thought the chapters in identifying emotional maturity/immaturity in others outside of your parents was really interesting。 I know I shouldn't doc a star for this but given the subject matter it isn't exactly a fun read though it is a necessary and well done one。 Quite insightful and really painted the full picture of living with emotionally immature parents。 The book included stories of particular patients as well which added real world perspective。 I also thought the chapters in identifying emotional maturity/immaturity in others outside of your parents was really interesting。 I know I shouldn't doc a star for this but given the subject matter it isn't exactly a fun read though it is a necessary and well done one。 。。。more
Kayla
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I'm a therapist that is a little late to the game with reading this book， seeing how it came out in 2015。 I think she did a nice job of helping people identify how their parents impacted them without blaming or villainizing parents。 The book was helpful both personally and professionally for being able to identify and describe this emotional loneliness that comes from emotionally neglectful parenting。 Like others， I wish there was some description on how to emotionally mature yourself。 Yet， I th I'm a therapist that is a little late to the game with reading this book， seeing how it came out in 2015。 I think she did a nice job of helping people identify how their parents impacted them without blaming or villainizing parents。 The book was helpful both personally and professionally for being able to identify and describe this emotional loneliness that comes from emotionally neglectful parenting。 Like others， I wish there was some description on how to emotionally mature yourself。 Yet， I think it is a guide about what not to do， so that you are emotionally mature and relating to people in this way。 Full book review here: https://www。kaylanelsonlpc。com/blog/a。。。 。。。more
Lorena Betancourt
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My youngest sister recommended I read this book， after reading the book we both realize that we’ve been dealing with both of our parents emotional immaturity for our entire life。 We have parents that we love deeply but nevertheless we’ve lived through very difficult and painful experiences with them。 I personally now know what to call it， by reading this book I now know what Ive been dealing with my whole life and that is living with emotionally immature parents。 As a consequence I realize that My youngest sister recommended I read this book， after reading the book we both realize that we’ve been dealing with both of our parents emotional immaturity for our entire life。 We have parents that we love deeply but nevertheless we’ve lived through very difficult and painful experiences with them。 I personally now know what to call it， by reading this book I now know what Ive been dealing with my whole life and that is living with emotionally immature parents。 As a consequence I realize that I have acquired some of those immature behaviors， I love my children but I know that Ive hurt them， not intentionally， but I realize Ive been insensitive at times。 Not only have I hurt my kids but my husband as well， I’m so glad to have read this book， I highly recommend it to anyone questioning why their parents act the way they do or say the things they say that cause pain and confusion。 Furthermore I’ve had the opportunity to analyze myself， I realize there’s emotional damage and work to be done on my self。 There’s zero excuse for being hurtful to anyone， much less your husband and kids。 Knowledge is the beginning for change。 I give this book 5 stars and hope there’s a part two on how to grow emotionally after realizing you e been affected by having an emotionally immature mother and father。 。。。more
Estelle
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EnlightenmentJeg forstår pludseligt meget bedre mine reaktioner og hvordan jeg kan tackle mine egen følelsesmæssige immature nærmeste。 Jeg vil altid kunne bruge denne bog， og kommer helt sikkert til at kigge i bogen igen på min Kindle i fremtiden。
Боженка Зварич
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Must read， якщо вам часто «порожньо» і ви не розумієте， що з вами не так。
Brooke Harper
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I cried so many times reading this。 Some things you read and think “I think this might change my life” and this was 100% one of them。
Hannah
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